I love bookstores. I especially love the “relationships” section! Yesterday I was browsing in a local bookstore (Russell Books on Fort St. in Victoria BC) and came across a sweet book by one of my favourite writers on love: Daphne Rose Kingma. This little gem is called “True Love: How to Make Your Relationship Sweeter, Deeper and More Passionate.”
On page 2 of the Introduction, this paragraph caught my eye:
“We have been taught to balance a checkbook, stamp out ring around the collar, and put together a gourmet meal, but we have never been taught how to create a truly loving relationship. Instead, with the help of romance novels, popular music, and the movies, we imagine that without any effort on our parts love will solve all our problems and make all our dreams come true.”
She talks about how love is a labor of love, and is also an undertaking.
The first section of the book is called “The Conditions of Love.” Here the author gives us some down to earth reminders such as the danger of assumptions, that relationships have seasons and that everybody is wounded (“The Torn Ear Theory of Love” in which she shares her unconditional love for her cat Max after he was in a fight and got the battle scars!) What I really like about her approach is that she busts the myths of romantic love and paints a picture of “true” love which is lasting and deeper than the infatuation many of us think will last forever.
I will share some of the highlights (from my perspective) of Section 2: “The Practices of Love” tomorrow!
Have you read this book? What did you learn from it? Please share your insights!